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Anal Sex – First-Time Reflections: Men Share Their Experiences

The topic of anal sex remains a subject of curiosity, taboo, and personal exploration for many. While it’s often discussed from a female perspective, men too have their own unique experiences and insights.

We reached out to seven men from diverse backgrounds to share their first-time experiences with anal intimacy. Their candid responses shed light on the emotions, challenges, and pleasures associated with this form of intimacy.


Can you describe the emotions you felt leading up to your first experience with anal sex?


1. John, 32

“I was a mix of nervous and excited. There was a lot of anticipation, but also a fear of the unknown. I remember the days leading up to it, I would constantly read articles and watch videos to understand what to expect. The more I read, the more I realized that everyone’s experience was unique. I spoke to my partner about my fears, and she was very understanding. She assured me that we would take things slow and that I could stop at any point if I felt uncomfortable.

The actual experience was slower than I imagined. We used a lot of lubricants, and my partner constantly checked in on how I felt. At one point, I could tell she was in some pain, so we stopped for a while, took a break, and then continued. It was a learning curve for both of us, but having that strong communication made it less daunting.”

2. Michael, 22

“Honestly, I felt pressured. My partner was more experienced, and I didn’t want to seem inexperienced. It was a pride thing, I guess. I didn’t want to admit that I was scared or unsure. I remember trying to act confident, but inside, I was a mess. Wish I had been more honest with my partner and myself. It’s okay to be nervous, and it’s okay to have doubts. What’s important is to communicate those feelings.

Despite my internal panic, the act itself was more of a gradual progression. We started with fingers, using a thick, water-based lubricant. I could sense that she was uncomfortable initially, but we adjusted our approach. Over time, she relaxed, and the experience became more pleasant for both of us.”

3. Liam, 28

“Curiosity was the main emotion. I had heard so much about it and just wanted to see what the fuss was about. My friends would often share their experiences, both good and bad, and I felt like I was missing out. I wanted to form my own opinion. So, when the opportunity presented itself, I decided to give it a try. I remember thinking, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’

For us, it began playfully. We used silicone-based lube and a small toy to start. Surprisingly, it was easier than anticipated. She was slightly tense in the beginning, but after some time, she seemed to enjoy it. It was a shared exploration that we both appreciated.”

4. David, 31

“I was skeptical. I didn’t think I’d enjoy it, but I was open to trying. My partner was very enthusiastic about it, and I didn’t want to disappoint her. I remember thinking that maybe it was something that could bring us closer. I was willing to step out of my comfort zone for the sake of our relationship.

Considering my skepticism, I was more attentive to her reactions. We incorporated a lot of foreplay, then used a desensitizing gel to ease any potential discomfort. I remember her wincing once, but she reassured me she was okay. Over time, we both found a rhythm that worked.”

5. Alex, 27

“I felt very vulnerable. It was a big step in our relationship. We had been together for a while, and we were looking for ways to spice things up. I remember the night we decided to try it. We had a long conversation about our boundaries and what we were comfortable with. It was one of the most intimate conversations we’ve ever had.

Our experience was profound, almost ritualistic. We began with a massage, using oils, then moved to anal play using fingers and lube. She seemed apprehensive, but as we progressed, I could tell she was getting into it. We had to stop a couple of times to let her adjust, but by the end, we both felt closer than ever.”

6. Sam, 25

“I was anxious but also hopeful that it would be a new way to connect with my partner. We had been going through a rough patch, and I thought this could be a way to bring us closer. I remember the night vividly. We lit candles, played soft music, and took our time. It was a beautiful experience, and I’m glad we tried it.”

7. Brian, 30

“I was indifferent. It wasn’t something I had a strong desire to try, but I wasn’t against it either. My partner brought it up one day, and I thought, ‘Why not?’ I remember being surprised at how much preparation went into it. We had to buy special lubricants and do a lot of research. It was a learning experience for both of us.

The ambiance set the tone for us. We used a combination of lube and a small anal plug. Initially, she was hesitant, but the slow, deliberate pace made it more manageable. She did mention it hurt a little, but as we communicated and adjusted, the discomfort lessened.”


Anal intimacy, like any form of intimacy, is deeply personal and varies from individual to individual. The common thread among these men’s experiences is the importance of communication, trust, and understanding one’s own boundaries. Whether it’s out of curiosity, desire, or relationship exploration, it’s essential to approach the experience with an open mind and a sense of mutual respect.

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